Waiting for her spanking. Obviously much of it has to do with the physical application of pain. Most people do not like pain and will do everything in their power to avoid it, so it is an effective teaching tool. But pain alone is not the only thing that makes a good spanking work. Sometimes the anticipation of being spanked can be the very worst part. A long lecture that a young lady knows is going to end in a spanking, leaves her so full of dread as she listens to every word.